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Three ways to get over the one emotion that’s holding you back

There are endless reasons why entrepreneurial moms feel like they struggle to maintain that ever-elusive work-life balance.  

Not enough time. Too many distractions. Catching yourself thinking about business during dinnertime and laundry during client calls.

But there’s one emotion that comes up again and again for working mothers, particularly entrepreneurs.

Guilt.

“I see guilt as one of the top limiters of success for women in any area, says Karen Wilhelm Buckley, co-author of Savvy Leadership Strategies for Women. “It’s like putting one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake and trying to drive.”

Today, we’ll talk about three instances where you need to say goodbye to guilt in order to truly spread your wings as a business owner.

1. You can be a great mom and a great business owner

According to the Working Mother Research Institute, 51% of working moms feel guilty about not spending time with their kids.  Many of us feel like if we’re not giving our kids all of our attention all of the time, we’re complete failures.  

One Pepperlane member ingeniously turned this age-old struggle into a new business win:

“I was set to meet with a potential client and couldn’t find a sitter. So I let my client know that we were going to be joined by a special guest and he was able to sit, play and eat while we talked business. My client was totally fine with it.

I did what any mother does, I just dusted my shoulders off and came up with a solution. I did not show stress, just like with my kids. You have to maintain a level of self-awareness, self-control, and ability to think quickly and problem solve.” 

A Harvard Business School study revealed that daughters of working mothers are more likely to hold supervisory responsibility and earn higher wages than women whose mothers stayed home full time. Men raised by working mothers are more likely to contribute to household chores. So stop beating yourself up and start bringing your kids to business meetings!

2. Have compassion…for yourself

As women, we spend a lot of time forgiving other people. Our kids, our spouses, our friends, our parents. But what about us?  

Having empathy for yourself and all that you’re going through may seem like strange ask, but it can go a long way in freeing yourself from the guilt you may harbor for not being the perfect mom, the perfect wife or the perfect business owner.

Pepperlane member Michelle sums it up this way:

“There are always moments where you question yourself and wonder if you are doing enough, if your business is really going to work and it all comes down to patience, which we all use with our kids.

Teaching your child takes time and building your business is no different. We all have to give ourselves grace and keep pushing on because there will never be a perfect and we all need to learn to accept and work with it.”

3. Stop trying to be Superwoman

We all need some help every now and then.  Feeling guilty about spending money to keep your home in order while you focus on your business is completely counterproductive.

A study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences showed that spending money on saving time boosts happiness, which allows you to focus on making more money!

Take it from our own co-founder Jess Peterson:

“For a while, I was so overwhelmed with everything I had to do at home and at work that I couldn’t even muster the energy to find and hire the help I needed.

Thankfully, my colleagues at Pepperlane stepped in and suggested that I work with two members who have helped me get my life back under control — one who does in-home meal prep and another who helps with household management and chores.

Just a few hours of help per week made all the difference in the world to my sanity!”

So, ladies, it’s time to let go of the guilt. Doing the best you can IS enough.

Share some ideas on how you overcome guilt in our community or on social media, using the hashtag #Pepperlane. We can’t wait to hear your strategies!

 

Tags coaching, confidence, entrepreneurship, momlife, motherhood, self-care, small business

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